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edited November -1 in General Discussion
So last night I told this guy that I liked him, and his answer was "you're very pretty, but I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now" But we all know that means I don't like you but I'm too nice to say so. And now I feel so miserable. How come the guys I like never like me back and the guys that like me I never like back? I'm just not compatible with guys full stop sad.gif Any ideas what I'm doing wrong this time?! I took advice from loadsa threads, like I got the courage to talk to him, but then I didn't appear TOO interested, and everything seemed to be going fine huh.gif pshhh guys are complicated.

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  • GooseyGoosey
    he wasnt ready for thsi jelly wink.gif

    thats awesome about approaching him though!

    actually, if he's in your social circle, you should start acting in a few days like youre COMPLETELY cool with it. like, don't act ackward and stuff....dont act like youre embarassed. be super nice, but not the kind of nice that makes him think you still like him. it will annoy the hell out of him when he thinks you dont like him anymore!

    i do this too! hahaha. even if i am COMPLETELY not interested, as soon as the guy starts showing signs that maybe he doesnt like me anymore, i get so irritated! like, he's supposed to GO TO THE GRAVE wanting me! hahahah. its flattering and stuff, so i guess thats why. but when he acts like he may be over me, i start being really nice---and then there are two possibilities: one is that he either starts liking me again(repeat process. haha) and the other is that he confirms(through not swooning) that he no longer has a crush one me. if he doesnt like me anymore, i start liking him.

    so maybe that willw ork on him. but if it doesnt, don't worry smile.gif he probably isnt right for you. there are millllllions of hot guys out there (*tear* committment is a bitch.) and when the right one comes along, just be confident and see what happens. the HOTTEST girls face disappointments when it comes to guys...so dont think there's anything wrong with YOU.
  • WeMadeShirtsWeMadeShirts
    Aw, i'm sorry it didn't work out. Who knows, maybe he's really not looking for a girlfriend and he wouldn't want to get involved with you and then hurt your feelings. Be optimistic, lol. Anyway don't get discouraged, at least you tried. And you had a non-totally-awkward conversationg about it, it's definately a step in the right direction. Better luck next time.
  • GooseyGoosey
    oh, and whenever a guyd oesnt like me, i always say "he has bad taste." hahaha. i mean, obviously, if eh had GOOD taste, he owuld like me tongue.gif

    does anyone agree with me on this: i'd rather be rejected over my looks than my personality. like, i have NEVER gotten depressed fi someone doesnt find em attractive, because same thing...i just figure they have bad taste. but if osmeone didnt like my PERSONALITY, id probably kill myself!
  • ThomasThomas
    i see where youre coming from

    but its the exact opposite for me

    if someone says that they find something wrong with my personality, then i think "oh well, it's better off then, cuz wed just annoy the hell out of each other." but if someone thought i wasnt good looking enough, id be really really sad.

    *shrugs*
  • The End Has No JenThe End Has No Jen
    in my experience.... when i have had guys tell me they're not looking for a girlfriend, it just means that theyre not looking for one in me haha. the best way to get a guy to like you is already have a boyfriend. i swear to god. I get SOOOO much more interest when i have a boyfriend than when i'm single. but in the past 3 years i have only been single for about a total of 6 months haha. so i guess hmmm i dunno what i'm takling about. try and find a cute guy at a gig haha.... worked a treat for me smile.gif
  • WeMadeShirtsWeMadeShirts
    Yeah if someone didn't like my personality, I wouldn't think there was anything wrong with it, I would just think our personalities were not compatible. But as for looks, I don't know, because i've never really been "rejected," because I don't put anything out there. ha ha. I would probably be a little hurt though, because i'm very self-conscious about the way I look. And I have this compulsion to be perfect in every way, so like, i'm not pretty enough unless every person on earth thinks i'm pretty.
  • GooseyGoosey
    are u a virgo, julie???
  • The End Has No JenThe End Has No Jen
    amina if you looked at her profile youd see her birthday is in july tongue.gif therefore she is not tongue.gif
  • WeMadeShirtsWeMadeShirts
    You know, its funny, I have my chart right by my computer (because I am an astrology nerd!) and there is no virgo anywhere in my chart. lol. But I am a Leo with a Libra ascendant.
  • unknownunknown
    Aww thanks guys I guess you're right, I guess I just shouldn't avoid him or anything.

    Yeah, I have to agree with you, if they don't like the way I look it's like well fine, everyone has different tastes, but if it's personality I get all insecure thinking ahh what's wrong with me?! Am I annoying? too bitchy? etc I don't know why!

    Thanks for the advice! smile.gif
  • GooseyGoosey
    hahha, exactly! cause its like, if somebody doesnt like your looks, you can do something about it! you can lose weight, or start dirnking more water, or ANYTHING ELSE, but there IS hope! but if osmebody doesnt like your personality...like...how would you improve THAT. hahaha. then you just feel like a loser! unsure.gif

    and SORRY JEN! i dont read and memorize julie's profile like you tongue.gif hehehehe
    and i was thinking virgo, julie, cause i'm a perfectionist too...and i hear virgos are like that.
  • WeMadeShirtsWeMadeShirts
    Oh, well my perfectionsim is inherited from my dad, ha ha.
  • ThomasThomas
    you know, ive just completely stopped caring about boys

    im too wrapped up in grades and my weight

    i guess this is a good thing...boys really have a way with screwing everything up!
  • RejectedSpongeRejectedSponge
    QUOTE (sara with no h @ Jan 29 2005, 06:14 PM)
    you know, ive just completely stopped caring about boys

    im too wrapped up in grades and my weight

    i guess this is a good thing...boys really have a way with screwing everything up!

    they do!
  • unknownunknown
    They do! I've decided on giving up on guys for a bit and concentrating on school, as it seems every time a guy gets involved, my world turns upside down for a little while. Yay school! I've just spent at least 6 hours today revising non stop mellow.gif
  • RejectedSpongeRejectedSponge
    QUOTE (unknown @ Jan 30 2005, 11:22 AM)
    They do! I've decided on giving up on guys for a bit and concentrating on school, as it seems every time a guy gets involved, my world turns upside down for a little while. Yay school! I've just spent at least 6 hours today revising non stop  mellow.gif

    ME TOO
    i dont like any guys right now, and it's so much easier not liking somebody!
  • XSGXSG
    QUOTE (unknown @ Jan 31 2005, 03:22 AM)
    They do! I've decided on giving up on guys for a bit and concentrating on school, as it seems every time a guy gets involved, my world turns upside down for a little while. Yay school! I've just spent at least 6 hours today revising non stop  mellow.gif


    Yea this is great!!!! Think bout this, it's better to have good grades in school than having a boyfriend right now, right?
    I was exactly facing the same problem as you before, except that it's ME who dumped my boyfriend! tongue.gif

    It was vacation when I have a boyfriend, but then when school's about to start again I just dumped him straight away. I know it's sorta mean to him, but SCHOOL GRADES ARE MUCH MORE IMPORTANT!!

    Gud for you, Julie!!! biggrin.gif
  • The End Has No JenThe End Has No Jen
    just to throw he spanner in the works.... mmm ryan hasn't messed up my schooling. much.
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