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- Tempe Arizona March 2011
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Comments
This guy sounds conceited, and that's probably only because you actually told him how you felt... you're much braver than I!!
He might not even be conceited - kids in high school are WEIRD and don't know how to deal with things like people who may like them but they don't necessarily like back. I mean, even adults aren't good with that. So I give the kids a little credit, but not too much.
But, again, it takes a WHOLE lotta' guts to flat-out tell someone how you like, so brava that you took the chance even if it didn't work out. I respect that a whole lot.
But you have my empathy.
He's new to the city, just moved here four months ago, and doesn't know many people yet. He and I were at the same show by The Walkmen on Wednesday (I don't know how I missed him there!), so he's into music - and indie rock at that. He was out last night with four friends visiting from his former city, so I didn't talk to him long. I felt I was intruding on their night.
I gave him my number, but he did not offer his.
The question is, should I try to contact him? The only way I can do this is to send him a message on Facebook. I'm confident I could write it well and clearly and not seem creepy. The answer seems to hinge on whether I have anything to lose by contacting him. At this point, despite his flirtatiousness at the bar, I don't think he would try to contact me on his own. My friend Sarah says I could wait a week, and if I don't hear anything, then contact him.
It's remotely possible but not likely that I would run into him at some future event, so if he thinks it's totally weird to get a message from me on Facebook, it's not likely to result in some terribly awkward encounter later.
Advice???? What do you think?
of course i am extremely deficient in the ways of love
And if he does think you're totally weird for doing so and / or doesn't respond to you, well :
1) If you see him at a future gig, and he thought you were totally weird, he probably won't approach you.
OR
2) If you see him at a future gig, and you feel totally awkward, there will be plenty of people there to hide amongst. I mean, you will be at a concert, after all.
OR
3) If you see him at a future gig and you do wind up talking, you just play it cool. If he brings up not contacting you or not responding, then that's cool. If he doesn't, you just act like it never even happened. In fact, you probably forgot about it yourself.
And finally, 4) If he thinks you're weird for having said "hi" or doesn't respond 'cause he's lazy or somat, then, well, he's probably kind of a jerk and you shouldn't worry about him anyway.
So, here's the thing. I've been debating on adding him on facebook. But I'm not sure how creeper-like that would be since I've never spoken to him at all and it's a fairly large ensemble with many people in it. Plus, I don't know where to go from there if he accepts the request.
(random rant of frustration)
Aw, sad face (
My big problem is that the guy I'm interested in (I hate the word "crush") seems to only like pretty airheads. I may be a lot of things, but I'm definitely not an airhead. It makes me really mad sometimes- not that I'm not an airhead, but that he is so... grrr...
Tempe, you are awesome. Guys are just... grrr...
man a little bit younger than me, asked me out for a drink, i turned him down.
My family and friends think im mad, wonder if going for a drink would hurt
I don't think it'd hurt. I think it'd be pretty fun.