In this Discussion
- darbie_starpower June 2005
- giggleguy July 2005
- Mary Says April 2005
- minia April 2005
- monkey7 April 2005
- RejectedSponge April 2005
- RiverSylphide April 2005
- sweetpea0431 April 2005
- TDrennan April 2005
- The End Has No Jen June 2005
- Thomas April 2005
- way6crow June 2005
- WeMadeShirts June 2005
break ups
warning, this is incredibly long, and most of you probably dont care.
anyway.
hi. so i guess im going through my first real break up.
the story: the other night, i broke up with my boyfriend of two years for cheating on me and lying to me about it.
i found out in december he had kissed another girl and i tried to make things work anyway.
in february he told me there was another girl that he pecked on the lips who was just a friend and they were both confused about it. i was mad that he didnt tell me before, but i assumed it was because it didnt seem like such a big deal, so i was ok. i asked him if he had anything else to tell me, he said no. i made him swear on my life. ha.
the other night i asked and he said it was more like 4 girls he kissed, not two.
okay. thats it. no more lying. i broke up with him and after an hour or two of sobbing and whimpering, he decided to tell me one of his good friends that i trusted very much made out with him also.
5 minutes later iask again and he says that the girl he just told me about gave him a hand job too. and that another girl gave him head aaaand vice versa.
i wanted to kill him. nearly 10 girls in two years, and hes the only person ive ever kissed. whaaaaaaat.
the problem:
everytime i write all this out or tell it to someone i feel stupid for being optimistic, but this happened on sunday night/monday morning, and weve been talking a lot on the phone still. he calls me in the morning before school, during school, and after school. i was still pissed and wanted to kill him on monday..and i still am but i still feel the need to talk to him. we talked all afternoon/evening today. we watched spanish soap operas on mute, talkingover them. it was fun.
i guess we're not supposed to talk though? but, he is the only friend i have. i moved from southern california to northern california last summer and i didnt really make any friends at the highschool, so i started doing independent study.
i dont know. i dont know what im supposed to do. i guess im supposed to get over it, ha no pun intended, [man i am glad i stumbled on that one before someone replied with it] but its not really something i want to get over...i sort of just want to work it out and fix it. im still waiting for someone to tell me we can work it out. [gotta stop thinking in lyrics!]
i dont know. im sooo confused about how i feel and what i want and what im supposed to do. i have no experience with break ups or cheating or lying or anything. none of my friends have been in a relationship long enough to go through something like this. heeeeelp! [more lyrics. ahhh this is the result of music deprivation, for sure]
anyway.
hi. so i guess im going through my first real break up.
the story: the other night, i broke up with my boyfriend of two years for cheating on me and lying to me about it.
i found out in december he had kissed another girl and i tried to make things work anyway.
in february he told me there was another girl that he pecked on the lips who was just a friend and they were both confused about it. i was mad that he didnt tell me before, but i assumed it was because it didnt seem like such a big deal, so i was ok. i asked him if he had anything else to tell me, he said no. i made him swear on my life. ha.
the other night i asked and he said it was more like 4 girls he kissed, not two.
okay. thats it. no more lying. i broke up with him and after an hour or two of sobbing and whimpering, he decided to tell me one of his good friends that i trusted very much made out with him also.
5 minutes later iask again and he says that the girl he just told me about gave him a hand job too. and that another girl gave him head aaaand vice versa.
i wanted to kill him. nearly 10 girls in two years, and hes the only person ive ever kissed. whaaaaaaat.
the problem:
everytime i write all this out or tell it to someone i feel stupid for being optimistic, but this happened on sunday night/monday morning, and weve been talking a lot on the phone still. he calls me in the morning before school, during school, and after school. i was still pissed and wanted to kill him on monday..and i still am but i still feel the need to talk to him. we talked all afternoon/evening today. we watched spanish soap operas on mute, talkingover them. it was fun.
i guess we're not supposed to talk though? but, he is the only friend i have. i moved from southern california to northern california last summer and i didnt really make any friends at the highschool, so i started doing independent study.
i dont know. i dont know what im supposed to do. i guess im supposed to get over it, ha no pun intended, [man i am glad i stumbled on that one before someone replied with it] but its not really something i want to get over...i sort of just want to work it out and fix it. im still waiting for someone to tell me we can work it out. [gotta stop thinking in lyrics!]
i dont know. im sooo confused about how i feel and what i want and what im supposed to do. i have no experience with break ups or cheating or lying or anything. none of my friends have been in a relationship long enough to go through something like this. heeeeelp! [more lyrics. ahhh this is the result of music deprivation, for sure]
Comments
what a jerk... he may be your only friend where you moved now, but you obviously are a cool girl, and you'll make other friends, you don't need him to drag you along again and again only for him to keep telling you over and over about the times he cheated on you. seriously, he may be apologetic now, but it sounds to me like he's got a major commitment issue, and you shouldn't be the one who has to help him sort it out and get hurt in the process. and i can't believe you're friend did that. that's lower than low. it's like even if i just like a guy if one of my friends made a move on him and she knew that i liked him, i'd be pretty pissed. so the fact that you were dating this guy for 2 years and then recently your friend did that, that's bad.
so, honestly, I know it seems like he's the only one you have, but you've already tried to work it out before when he told you about only 2, but with like 10 different episodes, it's like way more serious than just a "it was nothing" thing.... I dunno, I can't say I'm a relationship expert, but I do know if a guy cheats on you more than once, he's not worth your time.
actually, i'd like to karate kick him in the face whether you want that or not. what a bastard.
he called his uncle, who is a bishop..and asked him for advice. and he basically told him its okay because we arent married. its okay because i live far away. its okay because hes just being human.
um. no. cheating on someone with nearly 10 different girls, more than kissing, is not okay, whether youre married or not. ugh. im so mad. he basically said that its silly of me to be upset, because he lives far away.
ugh thats the worst. to have someone, an adult, in a very high religious position, to tell someone that its perfectly fine and normal to hurt me so bad and so many times.
Even if he's maybe a good person at heart, just young and stupid, he's not ready for a relationship.
exactly. i wouldnt have been with him for so long and given him chances if i didnt truly believe he was a good person at heart. i was just waiting for him to grow up. i feel like maybe he has though and im gonna miss out on it. but i think hes done way too much damage to make it work at all. which makes me really sad.
its tough.
but thank you so much for your reply. it made a lot of sense without getting me defensive, or making me more angry at him. i appreciate it a lot.
<3
It's so sad how things work out sometimes, life is complicated.
im sorry you would EVER have to experience that..especially with a girl you trusted!!
its disgusting, really
i know this sounds really mean, and somewhat horrible, and a little demanding, b ut dont even talk to him!! he sounds like a sneaky little weasel...so dont let him fool you into coming back!! you're too good for it.
All my friends are mad at me.
But I can't date this guy.
I feel like shit.
sorry, but I've not no one to talk to right now.
Hope you feel better though; you know better than your friends what's best for you.
if YOU cant date him, then dont!
I don't know if I can go into details on the off chance that a friend my be reading this. sorry.
me too.
My friends were kinda mad at me after I broke up with my boy too.
They seemed to think I was being a bitch, though actually we broke up after talking it over for an hour.
It's about a month ago now and I'm still not really over it.
with me the thing was that he'd be a very good boyfriend for someone...in about 4 years. oh well.
*gives you (and all heartaching people) a big hug, cause basically, there's nothing to say, I guess.
sporks are a much more effective stabbing tool...