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- darbie_starpower August 2006
- formerly shades of blue August 2006
- jedi_grrlie August 2006
- mexico39taiwan March 2007
- monday94ear March 2007
- tune1shade April 2007
i have a big problem
i have a problem and i need help right away...
my friend jake and i are really close.
were good friends and he likes me.
hes asked me out several times.
he tries to reason with me to get me to say yes..
but i like someone else.
hes gone out with one of my closest friends before..
actually 2 of them..
i need help.
my friend jake and i are really close.
were good friends and he likes me.
hes asked me out several times.
he tries to reason with me to get me to say yes..
but i like someone else.
hes gone out with one of my closest friends before..
actually 2 of them..
i need help.
Comments
im freaking cold now..
Honestly, I think the best thing you can do is just to tell him what you've been telling him. It's really hard to hear, "I just want to be friends," but if it's honestly how you feel, he needs to accept that. He shouldn't be trying to reason with you, and he can't force you into a relationship if you don't want to be in it. You have very valid reasons to not want to be in one- you like someone else, you feel you're too different, you may not be ready to date, and you don't want to ruin your friendship. I think you were as nice as you could be to him, and nothing you said was hurtful.
There's really not much else you can do. He's just got to learn the hard way. You're both young. He'll get over it, and hopefull you'll both stay friends in the long run.
im freaking cold now..
again, please try to relax and remember that both of you are really very young. there's no need to rush things and life doesn't have to be a teen drama/soap opera...ok?
oh, and *hug*
it helped
Honestly, I think the best thing you can do is just to tell him what you've been telling him. It's really hard to hear, "I just want to be friends," but if it's honestly how you feel, he needs to accept that. He shouldn't be trying to reason with you, and he can't force you into a relationship if you don't want to be in it. You have very valid reasons to not want to be in one- you like someone else, you feel you're too different, you may not be ready to date, and you don't want to ruin your friendship. I think you were as nice as you could be to him, and nothing you said was hurtful.
There's really not much else you can do. He's just got to learn the hard way. You're both young. He'll get over it, and hopefull you'll both stay friends in the long run.
I agree with this. You would hurt him more if you went out with him and your heart wasn't in it.
You know we're here for you. Feel better and many hugs.
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my friend jake and i are really close.
were good friends and he likes me.
hes asked me out several times.
he tries to reason with me to get me to say yes..
but i like someone else.
hes gone out with one of my closest friends before..
actually 2 of them..
anyways.. heres out latest conversation..
i need help.
im the freakmagnet one
im about to cry..
Etheawin: ok one more retarded question and im done.. if you didnt like [insert guy you like's name here] would you go out with me?
FreakMagnet91: probably not because i value our friendship more than anything, and i have a record of not being very close with people after the dating is over. and i kno u think that wont happen but it most likely will, plus you like being together alot with your girlfriends and im more to myself. i like having my privacy and being alone alot
Etheawin: damn it
FreakMagnet91: are u mad
Etheawin: no just sad
FreakMagnet91: jake there are so many people
Etheawin: i know
Etheawin: but still
FreakMagnet91: maybe one day
FreakMagnet91: cause people change
FreakMagnet91: and with me you never know
Etheawin: i dont need to know
Etheawin: i dont care
Etheawin: brb
FreakMagnet91: ok
Etheawin: back to what i was saying..
FreakMagnet91: what about it
Etheawin: you know.. ive never loved anyone [outside of family] more than you
Etheawin: seriously
Etheawin: and i dont care what it entails or how much you change or anythinhg
Etheawin: anything*
FreakMagnet91: jake thats probably the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me but were to different to date.
FreakMagnet91: you and i are super close and i dont want that to be ruined at all
Etheawin: you know i love you more than anything and nothing could make me stop loving you, thats how i know we would still be close.
Etheawin: -sigh-
FreakMagnet91: yes but were too different to date.
FreakMagnet91: the last thing i want to do it hurt you but thats what will most likely happen if we do date.. and i like someone alot right now.
Etheawin: i know that
Etheawin: thus the "if you did not like.."
Etheawin: and what do you mean by "too different to date"?
Etheawin: and what do you mean by "too different to date"?
FreakMagnet91: by how you like to be around your girlfriends alot.
FreakMagnet91: you have alot of love and you need to give it all, and i like to be to myself alot.
FreakMagnet91: which is why i might not be ready to date at the moment
Etheawin: i hate life =_=
FreakMagnet91: no
FreakMagnet91: no
Etheawin: well
FreakMagnet91: jake..
FreakMagnet91: god im gona cry
Etheawin: this particular moment in life
Etheawin: dont cry
Etheawin: please thats the last thing id ever want you to do
FreakMagnet91: i just wana be friends.
FreakMagnet91: friends mean more to me than anything else
Etheawin: that sucks
Etheawin: oh well
awww!!! thats so cute!
hes still like that
maybe a little less like that..