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Why the hell don't people read before they call me up. Why? I read everything before I decide to ask a stupid question. Why can't everyone else?
cheers for the consurn on my complaints people....=p
guys are us much dicks as some girls are bitchs, whom always seem to crap all over me
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Fucking Sainsbury's.
i dont know what i would do without mybig pink QM
Have you got university sorted, Kay??
I can offer you the services of my masseuse Bertha. She's big and scary and might sit on you, but she gets the job done.
But in seriousness, poor joe. Being old stinks.
It's extremely upsetting.
what am I gonna do without my Youtube fix?
I've got subscriptions and stuff, I'm getting behind.
I feel so boring!! I feel like there's nothing really interesting about me. At least, when I'm around "loud" people I do. I don't necessarily mean loud, but people who are Extremely outgoing and stuff. And just plain crazy. They stand out and I feel like I'm just pushed back into the shadows. I'm just not that wild all the time. I have my hyper moments and stuff, but I'm not like that all the time.
And I find that I feel pretty boring when there's a couple other people being crazy and I just don't feel like acting like that most of the time, and so then I become the person who is in fact boring. I've actually been told that a couple times, while I've been in a big group of people and everyone is saying funny things and being goofy and laughing and I'm laughing a little, just not really saying much, and I get called boring. I just feel like my brain doesn't work that way. I can't think of funny things to say like a lot of people do most of the time. And I just don't act completely crazy! And I don't talk that much. I'm not a very talkative person most of the time. So that adds to it. Instead of talking to people, I might talk a little but I don't really have a long, ongoing conversation with them. I just can't seem to think of things to say. Or maybe I'm not trying hard enough.
And I feel like that affects how I get friends. By not being extremely outgoing, I pretty much meet new people through friends I already have. Either that, or by being close to someone for a while: for example, in a class or something when they sit by me a lot and we just talk a little. But even then, they're not close friends who I would hang out with a lot. I hate it! I wish I could just change myself to be able to talk to people easier without getting too self-conscious, and be able to make close friends by just being extremely outgoing.
I'm sick of this feeling, too! I hate being alone! And why does freakin almost every guy here have to be in a relationship!!! And I think my whole boring-ness adds to the whole my being alone. Guys don't like me because I'm not interesting at all! And I'm definitely not good looking, so I can't get them that way. Good-looking girls could probably afford to be kinda boring because the guys would be attracted to how they look first. I'm just tired of it! And I know, "Just start talking to people more" right? Well I can't seem to get that through my head, and it's just driving me crazy. Maybe if I was ever hit on even once ever, I wouldn't feel quite so strongly about this. But I just can't seem to see myself ever having a boyfriend because they just don't ever seem to be interested...
I feel so boring!! I feel like there's nothing really interesting about me. At least, when I'm around "loud" people I do. I don't necessarily mean loud, but people who are Extremely outgoing and stuff. And just plain crazy. They stand out and I feel like I'm just pushed back into the shadows. I'm just not that wild all the time. I have my hyper moments and stuff, but I'm not like that all the time.
And I find that I feel pretty boring when there's a couple other people being crazy and I just don't feel like acting like that most of the time, and so then I become the person who is in fact boring. I've actually been told that a couple times, while I've been in a big group of people and everyone is saying funny things and being goofy and laughing and I'm laughing a little, just not really saying much, and I get called boring. I just feel like my brain doesn't work that way. I can't think of funny things to say like a lot of people do most of the time. And I just don't act completely crazy! And I don't talk that much. I'm not a very talkative person most of the time. So that adds to it. Instead of talking to people, I might talk a little but I don't really have a long, ongoing conversation with them. I just can't seem to think of things to say. Or maybe I'm not trying hard enough.
And I feel like that affects how I get friends. By not being extremely outgoing, I pretty much meet new people through friends I already have. Either that, or by being close to someone for a while: for example, in a class or something when they sit by me a lot and we just talk a little. But even then, they're not close friends who I would hang out with a lot. I hate it! I wish I could just change myself to be able to talk to people easier without getting too self-conscious, and be able to make close friends by just being extremely outgoing.
I'm sick of this feeling, too! I hate being alone! And why does freakin almost every guy here have to be in a relationship!!! And I think my whole boring-ness adds to the whole my being alone. Guys don't like me because I'm not interesting at all! And I'm definitely not good looking, so I can't get them that way. Good-looking girls could probably afford to be kinda boring because the guys would be attracted to how they look first. I'm just tired of it! And I know, "Just start talking to people more" right? Well I can't seem to get that through my head, and it's just driving me crazy. Maybe if I was ever hit on even once ever, I wouldn't feel quite so strongly about this. But I just can't seem to see myself ever having a boyfriend because they just don't ever seem to be interested...
There's nothing wrong with being a quiet sensible person. You should never think you're boring. I don't think you are. It's better not to be irrational and loud. Some people can pull it off, some can't. The people who can act irrational and loud effectively, are the ones who have some sense and are also nice people (sort of like Damian Kulash as an example). Then there are ones who are just irrational, loud, and think they're the greatest but they are really just jerks and hide behind a facade of being talkative.
I often feel the same way. I complain jokingly about finding a nice jewish boy, and sometimes I worry that everyone can get a boyfriend but me because I'm boring or too quiet. When I do go to a gathering, I often want to stay in the corner rather than go wild chatting. Often just smiling and saying hello is enough to show that you are a friendly person. You can be friendly without having to be outgoing. If I get absolutely no attention from anyone and am ignored, then I know I'm in the wrong place and leave pretty quickly.
You are not ugly either. You have nice hair and nice eyes for one thing. But even the fattest ugliest of people can make friends. It's really just about how you look at yourself and forcing your little inner deamon to shut up when you're in a social place. I really started to hate my roomate in Flagstaff because he told me girls with glasses are not hot. (He didn't say it to be mean. He thought he was discussing what in general men should find attractive.) I was angered by his completely sexist idiotic chauevenistic statement. But at the same time, I almost let it affect me. I started to wonder if I was pretty. Then I realized his concept of pretty was a skanky sort of girl. Even though I wear glasses, I don't really have trouble attracting guys and I realize what you've got to put forward are your best features instead of picking at the lesser features. Confidence is very hard to have. I always have to give myself a pep talk before going into a croweded room. Then I just smile and say hello cheerfully to everyone I see. If they are nice people, they will be glad someone else is breaking the ice (I'm speaking now in a social situation that is not necessarily finding a person to date.) I went to a dental association meeting recently. I was afraid they would judge me because I only just got my license and do not know the first thing about business and the things I feel I should know. At first, I didn't really look at anyone or talk. That's probably what came across badly. If I acted comfortably and just stopped thinking, I was fine. It was overthinking that made me freeze up. I stepped out for a minute, then came back in and I smiled and said hello to people. I just told people my name and asked how they were--that sort of body language is a lot better to have if you're a quiet person. You don't have to say more then hello, your name, and how are you. If you get an icy response, that person is probably a jerk and move on to the next. That's also what gets you out of the corner of the room. It was a simple friendly body language without having to be the cutsie talkative one in the room.
I used to be just like you, really quiet and shying away from large groups of loud, excitable people, and I got no interest from guys whatsoever. I think it's partly because I was bullied at my junior school, so I lost whatever confidence I had. Now I'm confident and talkative, and apparently sometimes intimidating, and I get a fair bit of attention from boys. I didn't need to change my personality or anything, I just realised that the majority of those loud excitable people were making up for the fact that they actually were boring by acting loud and excitable - I had more of importance and interest to say than they did. And I changed my posture. As stupid as it sounds, standing up straight gives you so much more confidence. You actually find yourself strutting, without even realising that you're doing it. So now when I walk into a party, say, I have perfect posture and the knowledge that I am just as interesting, if not more so, than anyone else in that room, and that alone gets you noticed. If you look like you've got something to say, people will listen more. Body language counts for a hell of a lot.
But even if you're just a naturally quiet person and you feel more comfortable listening than talking, your friends should respect that. I don't consider acting crazy an indication that someone's interesting anyway - the fact that you don't just go along with them and follow their behaviour would make me much more inclined to talk to you at some social gathering than any of them. Be yourself - if they can't find you interesting as you are, then they're the ones with the problem, not you.
the whole "chuck noris is so hard he is X"
thing?
dont worry about it
that joke died out about 30 internet yesrs ago